10 Bible Verses About Fitting in: And a Perspective Shift
A few years ago, I stepped about a million miles out of my comfort zone and attended a conference for women who feel called to write and speak. The weekend was filled with informational seminars, discussion groups, and motivational speakers. I was anxious about the weekend for plenty of reasons, and one of my deepest concerns was a quiet voice that whispered, “What if I don’t fit in?” Today, we’ll explore 10 Bible verses about fitting in.
Then, we’ll return to my weekend at the conference as I share the lessons I learned about feeling left out and insecure.
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Bible Verses About Fitting in
Let’s begin with God’s Word as we explore these Bible verses about fitting in.
Bible Verses About Fitting in
1. Colossians 3:1
If then you have been raised with Christ, seek the things that are above, where Christ is, seated at the right hand of God. ESV
When we’re worried about fitting in, we are usually focused inward.
Ask God to help you focus on him rather than focusing on yourself in insecure moments. Ask him to show you someone who needs his love and encouragement.
This shift can change your perspective.
2. Psalm 139:13-14
For you formed my inward parts; you knitted me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Wonderful are your works; my soul knows it very well.
God formed you in your mother’s womb. He created you with passion and purposefulness. You are fearfully and wonderfully made.
I encourage you to soak in these words and repeat them until you begin to believe them. Hang these verses in a frame on your wall or write them on a note and hang them beside your bathroom mirror.
You will learn how to embrace yourself as you as when you consistently align your heart with what God says about you. This will enable you to walk into any room with confidence because you won’t be overly dependent upon others’ love or acceptance.
3. Matthew 10:29-31
Are not two sparrows sold for a penny? And not one of them will fall to the ground apart from your Father. But even the hairs of your head are all numbered. Fear not, therefore; you are of more value than many sparrows.
You are so dear to God that he has numbered the hairs on your head.
He knows you better than you know yourself, and he cares for you deeply. Lean into this truth when you feel less-than.
4. Song of Solomon 4:1
Behold, you are beautiful, my love, behold, you are beautiful!
God’s love for you can be represented by the love a man has for his wife in a healthy, thriving marriage. As a husband looks at his wife and calls her beautiful, God looks at you and calls you beautiful.
When you worry about fitting in, remind yourself that you are the bride of Christ. You don’t need to prove yourself to others or fit in because he embraces you.
5. 1 John 3:1
See what great love the Father has lavished on us, that we should be called children of God!
God is a good Father. He loves you in the way a good dad loves his children. He believes in you, stands with you, and will never leave you.
6. Isaiah 49:15
Can a woman forget her nursing child, that she should have no compassion on the son of her womb? Even these may forget, yet I will not forget you.
God can never forget you. As a mother tenderly thinks of her nursing child, the child she sustains, God’s thoughts are always with you.
Rest in this when you worry about fitting in.
7. Psalm 17:8
Keep me as the apple of your eye; hide me in the shadow of your wings.
God cherishes you. You are the apple of his eye and his treasured possession. He dearly loves you.
Think of the way you feel about a precious child in your life. God feels this way for you. His heart overflows with love for you.
8. Ephesians 2:10
For we are his workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand, that we should walk in them.
God formed you in your mother’s womb with his hands. No part of you is hidden from him.
He also prepared good works for you to complete. Step into these assignments as you trust that God created you exactly as you were meant to be.
9. John 13:34
A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another: just as I have loved you, you also are to love one another.
Remember, you are called to love others, not to fit in with the crowd.
This is your highest calling. Aim to love well and leave the results in God’s hands.
10. Ephesians 1:4
Even as he chose us in him before the foundation of the world, that we should be holy and blameless before him.
God chose you to go into the world and share his love with others.
Ask him to help you focus on what you can give to others, not what you can receive from him.
Remember, your identity is found in him.
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If these Bible verses about fitting in have encouraged you, I invite you to return with me to the weekend of the conference. We’ll talk about practical ways to shift from insecurity to confidence in Christ.
Applications of These Bible Verses About Fitting in
The fear of not fitting in can feel surprising as an adult. You walk into a crowded room, and you suddenly feel like a middle schooler looking for a place to sit in the school cafeteria.
I wrestled through these fears as I navigated the first day of the conference. Much to my surprise, the other women were warm and welcoming. Most of us had similar reservations about fitting in.
On the second day of the conference, I made plans to connect with the woman who had been my assigned long-distance prayer partner for the two months leading up to the conference. I stood nervously at the spot where we had decided to meet and checked my watch. Waiting felt awkward. I felt out of place as groups of women walked by chatting and laughing like old friends.
I Don’t Fit in: How to Overcome the Fear
Sometime after my third watch check, a smiling, vibrant woman made her way through the crowd. She made a bee line straight for me. She was all energy and cheer, and she grabbed my hands without hesitation – like we’d been friends for decades.
“You just have to be Stacey!” she exclaimed.
Before I knew it, she was hugging me, tearing up, and talking so fast I could hardly keep up with her words.
It was possibly the most comforting and freeing moment of the entire weekend.
To be loved just as you are, right where you are, with no pretenses or need to try to measure up can be the greatest gift in the world.
To be loved just as you are, right where you are, with no pretenses or need to try to measure up can be the greatest gift in the world. #fittingin #kindness Share on XMy new friend hugged me for the third time, thanked me for the months of prayer, and pulled me onto her lap as we became the models in the photo-staging area. She offered me love, just as I was. She made me feel safe and valued. Her warmth touched my heart.
As the photos snapped, she laughed as she told me she still didn’t know what she was doing at a conference for speakers and writers. She was entirely transparent and didn’t take herself too seriously.
We captured a few photos, chatted for a few minutes, and made plans to find each other for dinner.
How to Stop Worrying About Fitting in
Two days later, when the conference ended and I faced the many miles of interstate, I reflected on the many women I met throughout the weekend.
I reflected on the struggle to fit in, keep up appearances, and face insecurities. It’s a struggle most of us will face from time to time.
As I reflected, one shining ray of light stood out among the many memories of the weekend: I thought of my prayer partner. She was like a ray of light filling every room she entered.
Somehow, she never seemed worried about fitting in.
She didn’t worry about appearing perfect or keeping up a facade.
She wasn’t afraid to admit she didn’t know where God was leading her in ministry.
My friend didn’t have all the right answers. But she did radiate a powerful kind of love.
She was warm and welcoming. She offered the love and safe space every woman in her presence needed.
The Gift You Always Carry
And maybe this is the secret to fitting in no matter where in the world you happen to be: Be the safe place other people need.
Be the safe place when the world around you is searching for someone to make them feel welcome.
Offer hope when the world around you is hungry for encouragement.
Be a safe place by showing up with nothing to prove and loving others, right where they are.
Take a hand. Touch a heart. Be real and be kind.
Instead of Worrying About Not Fitting in, Do This . . .
It’s been a while since that conference with my friend. Nonetheless, her impact made a lasting difference in the way I see my calling in life.
My calling is never about making a name for myself, finding a place to fit in, or proving my worth and competency; my calling is to be the safe place other people need.
Do you worry about not fitting in?
Make up your mind to be the safe place for someone else. Look for someone to love. Be real. Let others see your weaknesses. You will suddenly realize you’ve forgotten about fitting in altogether.
My prayer partner didn’t know why God led her to that conference. Looking back, there’s no doubt she fulfilled his purpose for her in that place.
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