7 Bible Verses for Frustration: Reclaiming God’s Peace
Recently, I asked the kids what they wanted to do on a balmy afternoon. Little did I know how frustrating our day would be. By the end of the day, I was locked in my bedroom transcribing Bible verses for frustration into my journal.
Bible Verses for Frustration
Perhaps you’re here because you’ve been facing frustration, too. Let’s start by reading some Bible verses for frustration and stress. Then, I’ll share the story from our afternoon. Be sure to read to the end of today’s post for a free devotional eBook to help you connect with God in frustrating times.
7 Bible Verses for Frustration and Stress
1. James 1:19, ESV
Know this, my beloved brothers: let every person be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger.
2. Isaiah 26:3
You keep him in perfect peace whose mind is stayed on you, because he trusts in you.
3. Proverbs 29:11
A fool gives full vent to his spirit, but a wise man quietly holds it back.
4. Proverbs 14:29
Whoever is slow to anger has great understanding, but he who has a hasty temper exalts folly.
5. 1 Thessalonians 5:18
Give thanks in all circumstances; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you.
6. James 1:20
For the anger of man does not produce the righteousness of God.
7. John 15:5
I am the vine; you are the branches. Whoever abides in me and I in him, he it is that bears much fruit, for apart from me you can do nothing.
Applying These Bible Verses for Frustration to Our Days
After spending an hour digging the bikes out of the garage, pumping air into tires, searching for helmets, and trying to figure out how to fit two bikes and a stroller into the vehicle, I felt like I’d endured a full workout (before we even pulled out of the driveway).
After a short ride to the local bike path, we hit the open trail.
I was about 20 yards down the path when I heard him behind me. My six-year-old was wailing, and we had barely even begun.
“What is it, buddy?” I tried to ask nicely.
“My shoe broke!” The little guy held a dismembered sandal in his hand.
“I specifically asked you to wear your school shoes, not sandals, for this exact reason,” I barked.
He wailed louder.
After securing the sandal strap with a granola bar wrapper, we were off to catch up with his older sister. From the stroller, the youngest protested my choice of snack. With my two unhappy boys, I proceeded down the path.
We made it about 50 more yards when the wailing started behind me again.
This time, the boy with the broken sandal couldn’t balance due to lop-sided training wheels. I turned to watch, and as he attempted to pedal in my direction, he veered into the weeds. Crying, he pulled the bike back onto the trail. Ten seconds later, he was back in the weeds. This happened two more times before he finally caught up to me, and we were still a stone’s throw from the car.
Overcoming the Spirit of Frustration When Everything Is Falling Apart
In my disappointment, I took a long, slow breath. Mind you, my biking buddy was sobbing at this point.
“I think we should save the bike path for another day,” I told him.
“No! I want to ride my bike!” he protested.
“Buddy, it’s not going very well. Why don’t we go hiking somewhere instead?”
At this point, his big sister had made a U-turn on the trail and pedaled in circles around us. “Come on,” she whined, “I wanted to ride my bike!”
“Do you see how well it’s going?” I asked in an unbecoming tone.
“No! I’m riding my bike,” the little guy declared, and tired of fighting, I conceded.
As we made our way down the path, the disappointment of riding into the weeds every ten seconds finally got the best of the sweet boy who was weeping in frustration.
I don’t know what it is about biking meltdowns, but over the years, I’ve learned to identify this particular brand of meltdown as a real trigger for me. Maybe it’s because the idea of going to the bike path sounds like so much fun. All I can think of is fresh air, the wind in my hair (even if I’m walking behind a stroller), and the adventure.
When one of the kids struggles on the path, my high expectations are shattered by the sad reality that the outing was just one more opportunity to practice bearing the hard-earned fruits of patience and kindness.
I’m an all-star at being patient and kind when everything’s going my way. But when my hopes for a brisk walk on a sunny summer day are shattered by a howling six-year-old, patience eludes me.
I’m an all-star at being patient and kind when everything’s going my way. But when my hopes for a brisk walk on a sunny summer day are shattered by a howling six-year-old, patience eludes me. #patience Share on XWhen Your Expectations Are Shattered
Let’s pause to have an honest moment here.
Let’s have an honest moment about our expectations and what happens when our closest people fail to meet our expectations, particularly our hopes for easy and smooth sailing days. In these moments, we all need help overcoming the spirit of frustration as it threatens to sweep us away.
Maybe you rarely feel frustrated when life goes off the rails and your expectations are not met.
Bless your heart.
I have not yet acquired this same grace.
Perhaps you aren’t raising kids. You face frustration in other places.
What do you do when life is hard, and other people let you down? What do you do when the work project fails, the plane is delayed, or the plans for the day fall apart?
There’s obviously not a cut-and-dry answer to these questions, but one thing I’ve learned about overcoming the spirit of frustration is this: There’s nothing wrong with changing course.
Overcoming Frustration by Changing the Direction
All too often, I make a bad situation worse when I force my unhappy child to finish what he started. I tell him we came to ride at the bike path, and we will ride the full 3-mile loop.
As the six-year-old with the broken shoe wailed behind me on the bike path, I knew I faced a decision: I could force him to ride/walk the whole 3-mile bike loop, and we’d all be miserable for the next hour. Or we could pack it up and change course.
I chose the latter.
“Let’s go do something different today, buddy,” I suggested, turning the stroller around and redirecting the big sister back to the car.
Immediately, the wailing turned to a more subtle level of sobbing. The little guy turned his bike around, and we walked back to the truck together. He sniffled the whole way. I was still irked. But I bit my tongue, scratched my hopes for a long walk, and took all three kids for a hike in a different park on the other side of town.
We climbed tall hills. We threw heavy logs into boggy ponds and even found a desolate playground. Everyone gulped down rootbeer from the emergency stash in the back of the truck. Little Aiden shared his goldfish crackers with everyone. The day was redeemed.
Here’s what it taught me about frustrating moments:
You might have good intentions regarding your intricate plans for the day. In fact, I believe you have the very best of intentions. You want to create rich and wholesome experiences, all while getting things done and feeling accomplished.
Your ambitions are godly and noble.
But when your actual life fails to comply with the expectations you’ve placed on your day, the best thing you can do is change course. When the work project falls to pieces, you can choose to begin again in a new way. When the recipe flops, you can scratch it and try something new. You can always make adjustments. Make adjustments, and remember this: You choose the kind of life you want to live.
Your life might be productive. You might be good at getting things done and sticking to your plans. But you might also endure more than a few miserable days in the process.
I’m learning to recognize the value of packing up, calling it quits, and changing course.
There is a time to leave a full shopping cart in the grocery store and head home with your screaming baby.
There is a time to throw the project in the garbage and begin again.
There’s a time to set aside the dream and go back to the drawing board.
Are you feeling frustrated today? What does God want to show you about this area of your life.
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